The Fat Issue

Every now and then a woman may hear the words "you need to lose some weight" or "you're fat". Truth is if you're carrying around extra pounds you already know it. These  words aren't easy to hear when they're spoken by someone you want to love you, for who you are. But does bringing the issue of your weight mean he doesn't love you for who you are? Is it wrong to point out that extra weight is/can be a serious issue? Should your partner  say something if you smoke a pack a day, drink heavily or do drugs, etc? What then is the difference; well i guess fat is a physical thing. Its all about the appearance ---right? Wrong

So what's a girl to do
a) lose the weight to please the guy
b) keep the weight and lose the guy
c) lose the weight and lose the guy